Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:35am

Nope, I didn't mention you anywhere in my statements and question about MLB and baseball in general.


....oh and Sab never stated what you are basing your comments on, either.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:35am
The thing is though, when you start catering to other people's expectations/desires about YOUR wedding, you are in for no end of trouble. Aunt Susie who is hurt because she expected that you would have six flower girls, and her sextuplets are the perfect age. The whole issue of kids vs no kids at the ceremony and reception. The "will you have dancing and liquor" debate when half the family is southern Baptist and thinks that dancing and boozing are one-way tickets to hell. The cousin who doesn't want you to play a certain song at the reception because that was THEIR song and her husband just ran off with the L&D nurse. The aunt who won't come if you invite the second cousin who insulted her at a wedding back in 2004. The uncle who doesn't like sushi and won't come if you have it in the room because just looking at it makes him ill. The uncle who retired from the pastorate in 1979 and is deaf and whose prayers always last an hour, but who wants to do the closing prayer. The cranky guest who thinks buffets are outrageous. Sometimes you are just better off doing what YOU want to do, because it is, after all, your wedding.
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:36am

Ah, no relevance to the previous post.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:37am

Exactly, I didn't state what you claimed, as I have said

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:41am

I don't remember anyone saying specifically that they were only talking about weddings in the US.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:46am
ITA! a thousand times over....
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:47am

<<And why is it so difficult to understand that I can make it to all of the parties and games etc... >>


Experience.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:47am
Riiiight.
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:48am

Perhaps she means your "definition" of the word?


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 11:49am

"Yes, I asked hazel for that link, still waiting for that link. Can you provide it?"

Are you expecting me to do her work, lmao??

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