Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:34pm
I feel the same way as you and that is why I do not have parties in catering halls that I can not afford. Other people do not feel this way though.
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:36pm
That was not my wedding. That was my sister's. She had every right to trash them and the other couple that said they were coming twice and never showed up. She had to pay for their plates too. You just don't do that.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:36pm
I know the definition of class and anyone going to a wedding without a gift does not have class.
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:41pm

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Oh honestly, why not just have fun with them instead of sitting in your seat frowning???

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:45pm
When I was in college the student handbook said "At Holy Cross, co-habitation is frowned upon" We used to joke that mean that if you shacked up with your boy friend or girlfriend the entire Holy Cross Community would gather outside your door and frown at you... ;-)

 

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:49pm
If you say so.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:51pm
I agree. Frowning causes wrinkles.
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:52pm
LOL! A scary image! All those stern, Puritan faces.
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:53pm

Are you saying that your son planning an inconvient location for his wedding would indicate that he didn't care about you?

Robin

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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:53pm
Stern CATHOLIC faces! LOL

 

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