Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:03am

do afterschool care systems in the US really leave children in the same building day-in and day-out?

No, they get out on the playground and play. There are organized sport activities. If it is raining they go to the gym. IN the summer there are field trips to pools and museums etc.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:04am
Isn't he back on GH?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:07am

Do you feel that your working status or non working status defines who you are?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:07am


Very good point!!!

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:08am

Little squirts,

 

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:08am

While Dylan's afterschool care stays on the school campus most of the time, he had one field trip to the estuary this spring, and he has gone to other school campuses for organized sports. They have a small flag football league and a soccer league of 4 schools where the 3-5 graders play the other afterschool teams. The schools rotate being the home team and the away team is bused to that school. When not doing that, the students have a daily schedule of homework, arts and crafts, and outdoor exercise where they can either have free play or join an organized activity. Only on rainy days, do they stay in one room.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:09am

How do you find the time to know some many details about other people's lives?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:11am
That's what I thought, so I was quite surprised to hear about children being stuck in the same building every day for 12 hours per day. It just didn't seem very likely....
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:13am

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Isn't after care an other activity and/or program?


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May I ask why your opinion should be considered as a basis for what other families should do or not do?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 11:19am
The afterschool program I worked at also had fun classes that the kids could participate in.


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