Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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In the city/town of OP where the kids are dropped off dirty and unfed by the parents with the fancy cars and big houses.
I have never seen, nor heard about an aftercare program that was open beyond 6:00pm. That doesn't mean they don't exist, but they must be pretty rare and fulfill a specialized community with exceptional aftercare needs.
talk about stretch...
>>children of sahps spend more than 12 hours a day with their parents how do they handle being with the same person day after day? They don't even get weekends to be with different people. YOur argument does not hold water. <<
...yep,my kids are spending 12 hours+ with me as summer break has begun. we do the y,the pool and errands together. i'm sure i'm forgetting something. i won't pretend to believe our experiences don't involve different people,though. funny....now if my children were *without* me most of their waking day,were away from me for 12 hours on a regular basis,that w/b too much. and i can afford to prevent that.
Edited 6/11/2007 11:41 am ET by egd3blessed
<< It buffered my concern that my dd may not remember that I SAH, which IS important to me.>>
Why is that important to you?
PumpkinAngel
May I ask is it 9.5 hours in school for other care, or do they go elsewhere to be cared for until you can come get them? 9.5 is the norm, I would think?
My issue goes along with parent's who keep their children in school for 12 hours straight.
<<To me, the memories of childhood (swimming in a lake, eating popsicles, traveling, making snow angels, mommy SAH) are all one in the same. Memories, and they are all important to me. I understand as infants they aren't remembering a SAH or working mother...but as they age, they will.>>
Curious as to why the sahm memory is such an important memory in childhood.
PumpkinAngel
Thankyou so much, you have read and listened to what I have said and did not take it out of context or twist it around.
We felt we had to do something for these children and the parent's, who had no other options, so we created other options and they can be involved on the on the weekends if unable to participate during the week. It has been a wonderful experience for all involved and some children with special need's or behavioral issues have really found a sense of security. :)
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So then they would be "stuck" in a different program, activity, club or group?
PumpkinAngel
Weren't you saying that you didn't know all the financial facts on these people?
PumpkinAngel
Have you reported these illegal activities?
PumpkinAngel
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