Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:04pm

Or when others claim they know about the illegal activities but instead of reporting them, justify the illegal activities.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:12pm
If you are talking about my children they are not. If you are talking about the individuals at the meeting's, it is the people who run organize the extended care.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:13pm

I have children in school.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:17pm
I didn't say anything about not saving. It's quite clear on this board that stuff makes you happy, though. It's just not very common. It explains why you think people are cheap if they don't want stuff like you do.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:17pm

Doesn't rhyme that way.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:17pm

Do you need to understand?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:19pm
Im going to assume you are joking, b/c it is not only the WOHP who do this in our school it ia sahp also. Janet's suggestion's were very clear and something we have been applying, we have a new principle next year, she is great and I see many psoitive changes ahead. It is me who normally takes the children without supervision into a area and call's the parent's to come get them, I hate doing this. So I will offer to bring many of the children myself.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:19pm

Illegal goods as well, correct?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:20pm

But unless someone is there at 7am and at 7pm or goes through the schools records, how would they know?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:22pm
You of all people should know that people can and do thrive on 12 hour days in offices.

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