Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:23pm
Oh, Im sorry I mis read your post. Thanks for answering. However that is not a 12 hour day.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:23pm

Quiet time is not being forced to nap.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:25pm

Yes, many people in many industries (nursing, eg) work 12 hour shifts.


Do you think a high percentage of children are in their school buildings for 60 hours per week on a regular basis?


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:25pm
I have called the cops many times for the way my neighbor drives past my house. I don't ignore the law all the time as you think.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:26pm

Are you talkig about your dd's who are in elementary school?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:27pm
It's hard to have outings when the children need that after school care time to do homework.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:27pm
There is nothing wrong with stuff if you are able to pay for it. I don't know but my "stuff" I buy is usually for my home, clothes for my children and food. We don't have expensive "toys" like playstation, nintendo, dirt bikes, quads, etc.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:28pm

No, I would not consider our after school other programs and activities, it is just like being in school, doing homework, playing on the play ground, and watching movies. Liek they do on fun friday's. Or when they earn reward's.

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Sure thing, I never claimed it should be. People are free to do as they choose. Like we are all free to form a opinion and voice the opinion.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:30pm
Why would they be in business then? I would have to have 8 kids to go on reduced or free lunch at my school and we do not make alot of money.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:31pm

"now if my children were *without* me most of their waking day,were away from me for 12 hours on a regular basis,that w/b too much."


Why?

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