Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:31pm

For my two high energy boys....exercise both indoors and out is part of the routine.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:31pm
Even though i have clarified numerous times, it was a misunderstanding, there is no logical reason to carry on.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:31pm

"that's something i don't allow you to do here because we go to nordstroms instead,yada yada. lol. ;)"

I don't understand this at all. Sorry!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:32pm
They are either at school, at activities at school or with our nanny, at home or out and about.

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Registered: 09-14-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:35pm

"there is no logical reason to carry on."

Most sensible thing I have heard all weekend

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:35pm
Im happy to hear that, however, in my school there are children who are there for 12 hours and I know this b/c I am in charge of many areas of the extended care and then some in our school. This is what I take issue with and what I have been debating. Not a child who uses bc/ or a/c within the norm, only the ones who abuse it.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:35pm
Sodium pentathol?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:36pm

There are two in our area, although neither of them accepts children at the age of 6.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:37pm

"Plus, children of sahps spend more than 12 hours a day with their parents how do they handle being with the same person day after day? They don't even get weekends to be with different people. YOur argument does not hold water."

I have to agree with you. Sometimes my kids are up at 5:30am which gives them 3 hours just at home before school. They are able to handle a 15 hour day with no complaints (except mine of course when they get up that early-ugghh!!)

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:37pm
I know some dont and some do. One of mine had a very hard day with full day kdg, her siblings did not.

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