Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:41pm

<<I don't ignore the law all the time as you think. >>


Interesting rebuttal.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:41pm

Im really not sure what you are talking about, since Iam only talking about the families I have the fact's straight about.

When and If I get the fact's about anyone else, I will let you know.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:42pm
Sounds more like afterschool tutoring than afterschool care. Afterschool care for dd can run (theoretically) from 4-5 hours, depending on when school has let out. There is usually time for at least one major outing and homework afterwards. Homework doesn't usually take longer than about 30 minutes for kids in the lower elementary grades.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:44pm

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Well then, please define what other programs and activities are since they are not playing and watching movies.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:44pm
Still on the handbag thing??!! Amazing. We were just talking about it at work about having another party.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:45pm
I don't, most of them tell me. I don't have the time to listen to it, in fact I normally try my hardest to avoid them unless, they really need my help. Iam very active in my children's school. Iam on many boards and in charge of a few areas, one would be what we are talking about right now.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:46pm
Our aftercare starts as at 3pm and ends at 6pm. They get a snack, do their homework and then they can do crafts or playtime.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:47pm

<<Im happy to hear that, however, in my school there are children who are there for 12 hours and I know this b/c I am in charge of many areas of the extended care and then some in our school. >>


So you are working these areas at 7am and at pickup time of 7pm?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:48pm

<Im happy to hear that, however, in my school there are children who are there for 12 hours and I know this b/c I am in charge of many areas of the extended care and then some in our school. This is what I take issue with and what I have been debating. Not a child who uses bc/ or a/c within the norm, only the ones who abuse it. >


Are you a teacher?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:51pm

Where did I mention handbags in that statement?

PumpkinAngel

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