Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:55pm

I don't know how you do it.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:58pm

I have already clarifyed, Iam in charge of the sign up and I gather the money, for the extended and befor care. It is all volunteer. Pretty simple concept.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:59pm

Honestly, it sounds like the program itself could use some shaking up. No wonder the kids aren't happy...it sounds pretty dull.


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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:01pm

lol...ot but i helped out in the nursery of vbs last week. there was this one little girl all by herself (and us nursery helpers,of course) for about 15 minutes every one of those five days after the others were picked up. her mom was the first to drop her off,too.

i can't imagine what that's like in *real* daycare settings. sad.

eta..and fwiw,i instruct a ymca swim program and make children and parents aware that i try to start and finish *on* time (just like shcool does)..i think daycare is different in the fact that they/we have an obligation to supervise until a parent arrives regardless of the rules they may stretch.




Edited 6/11/2007 1:48 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:04pm

Okay, so you don't observe the drop off and pickup.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:06pm

Perhaps they can't afford in since they have a volunteer in charge of administration?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:06pm

OMg, sit down we agree, you are right and we hope to make it better next year. :) Although many are ran this way.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:13pm
That was your main topic on me all the time.
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Registered: 09-07-2006
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:14pm
In a "real" daycare setting she would probably be moved into another room with other kids. They start consolidating rooms as kids go home so they can teachers home and so the kids aren't alone in a room with no one to play with.

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Mon, 06-11-2007 - 1:26pm


I agree!!

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