Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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Just because they don't show a lot of income on paper after expenses, doesn't mean it isn't worth being in business.
You can if you own a business.
I wanted to let you know that most dc centers and even the home dc that my child is in have "late" penelties.
You mean the contradiction between complaining about those who break the law
PumpkinAngel
I don't know. I saw him on something recently (as in, within the past couple years) but I dont' remember what it was. I think I remember hearing something about him returning to GH, but not sure if that was a long-term thing or not.
Whatever he's doing, he's looking really, really good these days. :-)
But wasn't the original point about sah with kids who are too younger to remember it? If the reason for sah is so the kids will have memories of it, there would be no point to sah with preschooolers.
I believe that all of our experiences affect us, whether we remember them or not. I don't believe that we are nothing more than a "compilation of memories," however.
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