Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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Never said he was.
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Cops are the worst what? So now you are going to compare shooting off fireworks to a federal crime?
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What? Are you saying that the cops in your area steal things they conficate? Wow...you have some really bad folks where you live. People ripping off the govt, corrupt cops. Just for the heck of it...can you tell me how you know that the cops in your area steal the items they confiscate? That in itself is illegal and they should be fired.
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Who is talking about off duty police? Do you understand holding a purse party is a federal offense? That YOU could be prosecuted FEDERALLY? Do you understand that in a federal court if you are found guilty it is day for day? Meaning...you have a purse party. Get caught. Prosecuted and given 3 months in jail. You will be in jail for 3 months period. If you think it is worth it go ahead.
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I guess we see what is minor and what isnt. A federal offense isnt minor in my book.
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Now, I'll return this thread to the serious debate.
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What? Are you saying that the cops in your area steal things they conficate? Wow...you have some really bad folks where you live. People ripping off the govt, corrupt cops. Just for the heck of it...can you tell me how you know that the cops in your area steal the items they confiscate? That in itself is illegal and they should be fired.
You have NEVER heard of cops taking the things that are conficated? This was over 20 years ago and they were doing it.
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Who is talking about off duty police? Do you understand holding a purse party is a federal offense? That YOU could be prosecuted FEDERALLY? Do you understand that in a federal court if you are found guilty it is day for day? Meaning...you have a purse party. Get caught. Prosecuted and given 3 months in jail. You will be in jail for 3 months period. If you think it is worth it go ahead.
They are NOT looking for the person having the party. If anything, they are looking for the person selling the merchandise. If they give the name of their provider, they will get off too. I am in NO way worried about getting caught having a party.
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I guess we see what is minor and what isnt. A federal offense isnt minor in my book.
And it is not in mine either.
Pumpkin Angel,
Well, you are an anomaly then, because the majority of women in America care about working vs. non-working status. One of the first things people ask (not people like you I would imagine) when meeting another person is "so, what do you do?"
You stated: "Curious as to why the sahm memory is such an important memory in childhood.
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No I must say I have not heard of this. Although I am sure it happens...those are what we call bad cops. Something that if I knew I would certainly report to their superior. How do you know they did this? It isnt illegal to buy fireworks.
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For the record....YOU are as guilty as the seller if you host a party.
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Having a party or being the actual seller is a federal offense. So do you see it as minor or not?
And welcome to the band wagon btw.
That seems a bit high. I see deals on TV and the newspaper for $500-$600/month to lease a Mercedes. "
Yup and I'm *sure* that its for the cheapest model. Check out the fine print. If you are looking at the higher end Merc's its not the case.
I can tell you the luxury cars we looked at were upwards of $1500 a month plus an upfront payment that wasnt insignificant.
"to me that is high but alot of people can afford that so it is not out of reach to someone who has a good job and not alot of other bills and wants to spend a majority of money on a car."
Well then they *can* afford it! Doesnt make them wealthy, but if you have a 'good job,' no other debt, and want to lease a luxury car, why not?
"No I must say I have not heard of this. Although I am sure it happens...those are what we call bad cops. Something that if I knew I would certainly report to their superior. How do you know they did this? It isnt illegal to buy fireworks."
It is illegal to buy fireworks where I live. The cops are supposed to be out stopping people, not having a show in their backyard. Cops and firemen do alot of things you don't know about that they shouldn't.
"Having a party or being the actual seller is a federal offense. So do you see it as minor or not?"
Like I said. I have absolutely no fear of doing parties.
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Can you post a link to prove that? It might be illegal to SELL fireworks where you live, but it isnt illegal to buy fireworks.
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So cops never have a day off? Were these cops on duty when they were shooting off fireworks? Thanks for letting me know what cops are suppose to be doing. LOL!
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Wow really? I will have to let my DH that has been in law enforcement 15 years, and my brother the fireman know about this stuff. LOL!
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