Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:44am
Thanks. I've seen all these websites already.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:45am
sorry; no, it was meant to be attached to the post you were replying to.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:46am
I think that each parent's work status is vitally important to themselves and their families and a choice not to be taken lightly.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:50am
Why wouldnt someone call the authorities? It is a FEDERAL CRIME! Sad you think that someone should do something better with their time instead of reporting a federal crime.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:52am
Even if neither of my kids ever goes to college, I'll still be glad I WOH FT while they were growing up.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:54am
Because I think there are more crimes out there that are worse than this that I would want my local police tending to. There is murder, drunk driving, bank robberies, burglaries.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:56am
I personally find it distracting when trying to get at the meat of a post to see "walla" typed when the word is actually "voila."

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:57am

but it's not up to you to decide what crime gets reported and what doesn't. It's a Federal offense which means your local police would be turning it over to federal authorities anyway.

theft is theft and theft of someone's name and design and talent is just as serious as theft of their possessions.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:57am

"No one here could handle a 12-hour day, every day, every week whether as an adult at work or child at school."


Didn't the vast majority of the lawyers at your former firm do so?


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 8:59am

"And you as a corporate attorney formerly in private practice should know full-well that most people can't even handle a 12 hour day, every day, every week."


Totally disagree.

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