Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:30am

<<Well, you are an anomaly then, because the majority of women in America care about working vs. non-working status. One of the first things people ask (not people like you I would imagine) when meeting another person is "so, what do you do?" >>


I disagree, based on my experiences that is not the case.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:34am

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Maybe it is like my area.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:36am

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:38am

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Thus was my point.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:38am
People will drive to PA to get the fireworks by me. Yes, there are tons going off on the 4th and the rest of the summer but it is illegal to buy, sell or possess fireworks in NY. I have included a story that just happened in my county about guys buying $11,000 worth of fireworks to sell. Even if they did not sell them (which they never got the chance to) they were charged for possesion.
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:40am

Is it legal to purchase them in another county and transport them across county lines?

It is legal to purchase fireworks in Wash DC, but it is illegal to transport them across the Wash DC line into MD. So even if you never shot them off in MD, it is still illegal just bringing them into the state from DC.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:40am

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Because it is illegal.


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Na, they are called good citizens, you know those who report crimes versus turning a blind eye to those crimes.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:42am
Same thing in NY. You can buy them in PA, FL, GA, etc. but once you bring them over the NY border, it is illegal.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:44am
I just think there are other important crimes that need to be addressed before handbags. Where are they hearing of these parties and what are they getting out of it? Maybe they are jealous they were not invited-lol!!
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 11:47am

....and still say it's not a big deal.

PumpkinAngel

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