Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:00pm

....and who gets to decide what is important or not?


I find it quite contradicting for someone who admits to committing federal crimes (based on mbanc17 comments that it is a federal crime) to be sitting in judgement of what crimes are important or not.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:01pm

Would you host a heroin party?

I get it, you would host such a party but not sell it.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:01pm
Usually, there are different units with a department that focus on these types of crimes, esp in urban areas such as NY.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:02pm
Well you can't speak of something you know nothing of except of what you read in the paper. Have you ever seen a knock off bag, would YOU know the difference? How do you know that so and so at work or down the block does NOT have one?
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:03pm
I don't take drugs like that very lightly. I would never get involved with them or anyone who did them. That is a totally different ballpark.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:03pm
There are PLENTY of handbags for sale that are not illegal copies AND cost less than $50. Personally, I have never bought an illegal copy and I have never paid more than $25 for a hangbag.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:04pm

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No the better solution would be not to own something they couldn't afford and to not buy illegal goods.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:04pm
I understand that. I do know cops. I am not hidden away and don't know anything. That is who is always busting our flea market.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:04pm
Not a designer one.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:06pm
Why would I rather have them stop the speeders or the person trying to rob the convience store instead of the handbags? You should know that answer.

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