Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 08-12-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:06pm

and. . .?

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:07pm

<<Well you can't speak of something you know nothing of except of what you read in the paper. >>


Yes....I can.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:07pm

As if the cops are just sitting on every street corner waiting for drunks to drive by....

Kind of like if a cop has pulled someone over for speeding and gets a report on his radio that there has been a shooting. If he's the closest cop, you think he's going to continue writing his ticket? Obviously the cops use their judgment as to which takes precedence.

I can't imagine that there are so many drunk drivers, murders, etc as to keep the cops busy every minute of the day. But typically in areas that have a lot of crime, there is a larger police force with different units handling different types of crimes.

And yes, I do think it's important to prosecute such petty crimes as shoplifting b/c it ends up costing consumer money b/c stores raise their prices to cover their losses, esp when it's a big shoplifting ring. That's why Target has such strict return policies now - b/c so many petty criminals were getting around their return system and costing Target to lose quite a bit of money.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:07pm
Why is that a different ballpark?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:08pm

Big deal.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:08pm
And the same ones who would be busting the parties if they knew about them...NOT the ones investigating murderers.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:09pm

That wasn't the question.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:11pm
I guess we just don't understand why it is so important to own a designer handbag and try to impress people by pretending it's the "real" thing. Personally I think most of them are ugly.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:12pm
Someone designed them. I don't see the big deal about "big name purses" anyway. Money ill spent in my book.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:18pm
I am not trying to convince you. I just think it is so funny that everyone can have an opinion on how horrible it is but you don't know WHO is actually carrying these around. It might be the last person you would think would have it.
This has nothing to do with the illegal argument.

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