Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:30pm
Never said they were.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:31pm
The point is you don't know who is carrying a fake and real then. Maybe that rich woman you see in the grocery store is carrying the fake. Maybe the girl who looks like can't rub 2 nickels together has a real one. You never know.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-10-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:32pm

Do you feel that it's okay for people to have drug parties?

I get it. Only the things that you are interested in are okay to have parties for.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:33pm
FTR, I don't get cars or jewelry either.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:35pm
I couldn't tell you difference between a "designer" bag and one that costs $20.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:36pm
And your point is? Because the rich person may own a fake and we don't know? How is that relevant to whether it's illegal or not? The financial situation of the person purchasing the illegal purse has no bearing on whether it is a crime.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:39pm
I doubt I could either. But why that matters anyway is something I don't get...supporting an illegal business is still supporting an illegal business, regardless of who owns the bag and whether you can tell it's real or not.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:39pm
I don't agree with drugs like these for anything. Drugs are totally different to me than pocketbooks.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:41pm
The point is that everyone is coming down on these things but most people would have no clue if one was real or not. While it is illegal to sell knock-off's, people will always do it and the person you might look up to either bought one or got one as a gift.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 12:41pm
And drug dealing is different than drunk drivers. Is one more important to you than the other? Because the cops can't be going after everyone, right? Where do you draw the line?

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