Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:28pm

Really?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:36pm

I'm sorry but wasn't there a post back that said you weren't "into" owning "things"?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:38pm

I think that was one of my points in another thread.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:41pm
I think that copyright theft is one of the more serious ones. If I don't have control over my own intellectual property, what's the point?
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:46pm

Not really directed to you but I'm curious and jumping in here anyway...

Do that many people really notice the handbags (or other small fashion details) of people they see on the street? Even though I'm a total clothes horse, I can't say that I've ever paid that much attention to people in passing.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:06pm
What do you mean, don't shave?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:08pm
People could use that $200 or $300 for much better longer term things like retirement or college savings if they're not wealthy.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:10pm
How many people in your family are wealthy, vs. the number who own fake or real bags?

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:12pm
Why does it matter if someone can tell the difference? The problem is that people who pay for knockoff bags are supporting criminal organizations. And supporting theft. If you wrote a book, how would you feel if your neighbor photocopied your book, and sold it for half of what it costs in the bookstore?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:13pm
Of course not! No after school care programs in that county in Conn., silly!

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