Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:15pm
I notice only when there's dissonance- a real disconnect between the accessory and the rest of the outfit. I once saw a man in a well-fitted business suit carrying a worn bike messenger bag. That sort of thing catches my eye.
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:17pm
For that matter, it's a useless argument. I could just say... why do they bother chasing rapists? Serial killers are much worse, cops should spend their time looking for serial killers, rather than going after rapists.
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Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:18pm

It's interesting, yes, but it is not unique to hazeleyes--imo she reflects the mainstream viewpoint of the post-Gen X crowd(for lack of a better term). Incidentally, the OP on this thread summed it up when she said, "It's MY truth." I'm not sure when truth became a variable that shifted depending on the person, but when it did, the law also became absolutely relative (at least for those people).

At least, though, Hazeleyes is willing to listen to "other people's truths," and I have to give her credit for that.

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Registered: 10-31-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:25pm

Maybe they could do both. And how do you know an innocent child wasn't enslaved to make that bag? The black market isn't as harmless as you think, which is probably why trafficking in black market goods is considered an extremely serious crime.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:36pm
i thin kyou are the anomaly - i dont know one mother who cares one bit about sah or woh - the moms i know do what is best for their families and move on. it is not something they think is going to determine some final product. it is great if you wanted to sah that you are able to. and while everyone is free to think anything is important that doesnt make it so to anyone else, so while sah may be important to you and your family it really isnt important as a stand alone choice. sah is not a work status.
Jennie
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Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:44pm

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Gen X believe it's okay to buy counterfeit products because they want them?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 3:59pm
I could afford the bags if my son was not in daycare and the kids needed clothes every season. Those are my priorities now, not real bags. I bought a $500 on our 1st anniversary and we had no kids. I only have 1 real bag and a wristlet after the kids and I treated myself to that with my own money.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:00pm
I was speaking of my property taxes.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:02pm
So in reality you can not afford the real bags anymore.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:04pm
I answered you in another post.

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