Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:06pm
Well they are not doing either by me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:10pm
A bag so I can put my stuff in?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:12pm
Why can't you have both? It's called having a balance, saving and spending. Enjoying life now while you save to enjoy it also later.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:14pm
My family is middle-class to wealthy. If any of them do have fake bags, they definately also have a real one.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:16pm
How does anyone know WHO makes the clothes and shoes they buy? You really don't and it is not going to keep me up at night worrying about it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:17pm
If I didn't send my daughter to camp or daycare and I took the day off, yes I could afford it but I try and save my vacation days for days I really need them.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:29pm

Huh?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:30pm
But you and your DH pay federal income taxes, right?

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:34pm

Curious, where do you draw the line here?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 4:38pm

"I'm sorry but wasn't there a post back that said you weren't "into" owning "things"? Because it certainly sounds like you are very into owning things"

I am into owing handbags to put my stuff in.

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