Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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Edited 6/12/2007 4:42 pm ET by janetlynn_64
So anything from Wal-Mart would be just fine?
PumpkinAngel
"Why can't you have both? It's called having a balance, saving and spending."
Exactly, one could spend $50 on a nice bag and save $250 more for ones retirement.
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<<The line is that you can't just attack me. >>
Excuse me?
PumpkinAngel
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Like I said I believe you need to spend AND save. My dad never made it to retirement. Yes, it is great that my parents saved up for years and now my mother is able to have extra money but he never got to really enjoy it fully. He saved and saved, while only splurging when they got older (10 years maybe).
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