Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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| Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm |
It struck me today that she might not.
I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.
She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?
She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....
I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.
Andrea







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"Why should I buy something for $50 just to save the money?"
Because I thought you wanted to be able to SAH or build up your savings more than having a designer bag.
Just curious, is the only way you think you'll be able to SAH when you have more income?
Did you ever consider that if your dad hadn't "saved and saved," your mother might now be in much worse financial shape and have to come out of retirement?
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<<Because I like the looks of certain brands.>>
Yes as I said, I understand that.
PumpkinAngel
Whether you can afford something is dependent on your overall net worth and financial goals, not your income.
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<<You seem to attack everyone on this board that does not agree with you. >>
Again, where did I
PumpkinAngel
Yep.
PumpkinAngel
I have not bought a new bag in 9 months and I was on vacation at that time
I know I will not be able to sah unless my dh gets a huge raise and medical. We can't possibly afford to live on one income even if we saved every penny we made.
I absolutely know that if my parents did not save my mom would not be comfortable. He was saving for them and he never got to enjoy retirement.
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