Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:01pm

What if you have all this (except the paid off cars) due to credit card and home equity debt?


Isn't it possible that those family members only appear wealthy but are in not in fact?


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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:02pm
If someone stole my design on a dress, I would not be happy even though they are a legitimate company. Who knows, maybe Eve of Milady made money off the dress too for the design??!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:02pm

I absolutely know that if my parents did not save my mom would not be comfortable. He was saving for them and he never got to enjoy retirement.


So, which is it?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:03pm

Then why do you buy counterfeit goods?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:03pm
I wish my income was my net worth-lol!!!!!!!
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:06pm
Absolutely not. A bunch of them made very good money in the construction business while they were working. They don't have to worry about anything anymore. The others make very good money. They invest their money wisely.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:07pm
I think he did the right thing but everyone is so persistant on retirement that you just never know if you will be around to enjoy it.
Personally, I think he could have spent a little more on things he wanted AND saved. She would have still been fine.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:09pm
I don't care that my dress was a knock off. I just don't see why Eve of Milady would not have done anything about it.
A bag designer can not go to every party and every store to stop them from selling their design. A dress maker can definately go the manufacturer and stop it.
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Registered: 03-15-2007
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:13pm
Because someone making a similar dress to one I designed is not the same thing as someone making a nearly identical dress and then putting my name on it and then selling it.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Tue, 06-12-2007 - 5:18pm
It was near identical though.

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