Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 7:57am
Because I have the choice of staying home and saving $90-$285/week or putting my daughter in camp (one at daycare location). I could easily take that money and buy a bag but I would rather save my days and spend the money on the care.
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 7:58am
Ew. I can't be sure, but I can guarantee that I don't qualify for your bonus points.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:04am

That's ridiculous. The best thing that's happened to these overpriced bag manufacturers is the knock-off. It's apparently slipped your observation that more and more people are carrying "expensive" bags than ever before - because of the incredibly successful knock-off industry.

Coinciding with this upsurge in visibility ~ not surprisingly ~ is that the designers routinely slap many of their bags with their initials. Authentic Coach bags, Fendi, Biba, Dior, even {{hush}} Chanel slap their initials somewhere or all over their bags. They know knock-offs of their authentic bags are the best advertisement...and it's free!

Any argument that knock-offs hurt the designers is downright foolish and shows an unawareness of basic marketing technique.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:07am
I have to agree with you. If someone sees a bag (even if it is fake) they might like it and if they can't find the fake version, there is a big possibility that they will buy the real and they will make money.
I don't know if it is the same all over but the tweens are now carrying real bags. My daughter would lose her head if she didn't have it attached so I would not be getting her a real bag anytime soon!
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:13am

Things do get a little exaggerated here, don't they? LOL. "Murder!" I know a Chanel bag is waaaayy overpriced, and I know my Mom (who has less of an income than I do!) is willing to buy one every few years. She is under no delusion that the knock-off has increased the price of the authentic Chanel bags. The knock-off has not affected or increased prices of the nice, expensive designer bag. Chanel will be ridiculously overpriced now ~ or 10 years from now after all of those murderous, knock-off "thieves" are cleaned up from the streets of America.

Who the heck cares??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:46am

Whatever it is, it's ugly.


I wouldn't be caught dead carrying a purse like that so no bonus points for me!


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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:50am

Oh, please. "Stealing" the name of half of the designer's named in this thread would hardly make someone appear affluent. A $300 original bag by no means suggests wealth.
Fake bags at best say she's into fashion.

And please explain how an expensive designer bag is not functional. In the real world, cheap and ugly thankfully don't own exclusive rights to functional.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:54am
You really aren't intimately friendly with at least 11 families at your kids' schools??
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:57am
I can't even tell you the first names of 11 moms in my daughters school LOL... I have to refer to them as "emily's mom' or 'Liam's mom" ...

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 8:58am

You make it sound like federal crimes are more egregious than state crimes! LOL.

Did it ever dawn on you that the bag designers apparently don't give a rat's patoot about much of the illegal knock-offs? Hmmm, I wonder why that is.

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