Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:00am
Do you think that's a little excessive? How does it harm the bag designer to have his name splashed across a knock-off bag being carried by a woman who could not otherwise afford one of his originals?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:10am

Maybe it's because I work in creative fields with alot of writers and designers but the theft of someone's NAME is wrong. period. And they DO care -- they have legal teams who do nothing but work on this issue. so do movie studios, record companies etc. Ask the guy who is facing a 3 year sentence for illegally downloading episodes of 24 -- alot of work and talent goes into any creative industry and theft of a design and a person's name is wrong. and it will alway sbe wrong. This isn't a case of "The MAN' putting the little guy down -- it's a case of the little guy being not talented or creative enought o produce something and then stealing someone else's hard work.

Good Morning America actually did a whole segment on illegal knock offs being sold in the Bahama's and the customs agents and federal agenst who work in this field take it quite seriouly indeed.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:12am

Oh, but are you actively involved in the school? I thought "involved" in the school actually meant "involved!" Silly me.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:19am
Please tell me how selling fake bags harms the purchaser? And not the ole, unfounded argument about child labor. You have no idea what underpaid hands produced your K-mart mix-and-match ensemble du jour.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:22am

I know what you mean. I think it will change at our school now. They just installed a high tech visitor/volunteer badge machine and our names are now on it. Before we just wore a hand stamped label that said "Schoolname Visitor".

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:24am

Shoplifters and vandals have actual victims willing to prosecute the criminals. Apparently, quite a few bag designers are quite happy with the current situation. Otherwise, fake handbag parties would be a thing of the past.

Do you think cops should waste valuable time prosecuting victimless crimes? Who are the alleged victims in your handbag party scenario?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:25am

I consider myself invoved at our school- I volunteer once/twice each week. I couldn't name many first names of parents. I know all the kids names in my childrens classes though. The parents whose first names I do know, I know because our children are involved on other activities outside the school or they are my personal friends.

I have never been a good name person, I am a face person.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:32am

Are you actually claiming Hazeleyes' federal income tax is higher because the US Treasury loses millions of dollars from the illegal importation of knock-off handbags alone?

Oh my!

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:39am
You might want to check your Gap and Banana Republic clothes, as I'm sure there's a child somewhere making the clohtes on your back, instead of attending school.
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:40am
Excellent point! I doubt anyone here knows for certain that the unfashionable but honorable clothes currently on her back and the pleather ink-stained handbag shoved into the bottom drawer of her fiberboard office desk were not manufactured by child labor.

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