Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

Two Delicious Daughters Call Me "Mommy!"


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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:44am
When you really think about it, it is kind of laughable because I'm sure no one here makes all of their own clothes. It causes people to be really honest with themselves if they think that every piece of clothing they are wearing is made by an adult who is being paid more than minimum wage and is not forced to work long hours under horrible conditions.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:45am
Who made the bookbag that you carry?
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Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:48am
I'm as involved as I want to be which is showing upa t school events, and occassionally chaperoning a field trip... LOL

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:50am
The thought of carrying Walmart pleather handbag with thin shoulder strap in fuschia~peach medley stripe just makes my skin crawl! I don't much care that it would be an original and new!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:52am
n/t
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:55am
Oh, Dahling, I have never set foot in a K-mart.
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:56am

You're not in the market for designer bags/clothes? I'm shocked, just shocked.

Sorry about the quiz. I can't tell a fake from an original. I only know where to buy the originals. Hmmm, I guess I probably should also provide the links where to buy the original designers. Sigh. Work, work, work.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 9:58am
I think it's a fake. One of the flowers or whatever it is, is cut off and I think that's what makes it fake.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 10:01am
Hey, lookie here, we agree on something.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 10:02am
I don't get the joke.

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