Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:06pm

I'm sure she could if she got paid off the books or in cash or didn't report all of her income.

Hey, how is the home childcare biz treatin' ya?

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:09pm

Without knowing more, I would say it compares as equally detrimental as handbag parties.

ABS does not have the Oscar night designers' names on the dresses. I guess I should have given the link to you too. ;P

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:10pm

This should have the LOL icon....oops.


Really?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:12pm
Yikes! That would scare the heck out of me! I think it was the main electric switching mechanism that completely blew out. It got replaced and works now, but there are still some quirks in the electrical system. Otherwise, we've never had an issue with the car.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:13pm
I actually carry around a Lands End day tripper that I've had since DD was a baby. It's indestructible and is the perfect size.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:13pm
Yep. When someone is sent to federal prison the sentence is day for day.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:15pm
I know you corrected your original statement. However you followed that up with other comments. I was pointing out to you that I wasnt debating your corrected statement just your original statement was incorrect.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:16pm
Thanks. I thought I was the only handbag horse except that tons of people by me have them.
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:17pm

"That's not the point. The point was that hazeleyes is buying (and selling at a purse party) illegal counterfeit goods, which is a federal crime."

Is buying the purse illegal?

"Are you claiming that everyone here is also committing a federal crime and is as proud of it as the posts state?"

I have no idea what everyone else is doing.

"It's goody-two shoes now to not commit federal crimes? Wow, just call me Rebecca of Sunnybrook farm if that is all it takes. I fully admit to being a goody-two shoes, since I have never knowingly committed a federal crime let alone the pride factor."

You are adding words to my post. I never stated that anyone was committing a federal crime. I specifically said that no one here is owning up to the fact that they buy clothes that are made by people who are employed by people who are breaking laws.

You're quite the spinner.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:18pm
I have to agree that a $300 does NOT mean you have money. There are plenty people out there that spend that much on something else that I might think is a waste.

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