Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:18pm

the a-line design would have naturally entered public domain decades ago, if anyone ever did have a claim to its invention. and the army's business isn't selling camouflage, though no doubt some fabric makers and designers maintain rights to specific camouflage patterns.

the argument that knock-off bags provide free adverstising is inane. it is harmful to a designer's reputation to have her name on substandard goods (and despite the fact that some who buy them claim not to be able to tell the difference, few if any knock-offs are of even decent quality); her reputation is not enhanced but hurt any time anyone sees her logo on any low-grade junk. similarly, her sales will be hurt by poser mommies and tweens carting knock-off junk around, since the glut makes it so anyone who would have considered paying for the real thing would have to face the fact that carrying a real thing will lump her in with the losers who buy the knock-offs at first glance and in most people's eyes. knock-offs do not benefit designers in any way--though they do seem to have a way of spotlighting the moral fiber of people who buy them.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:19pm

That wasn;t the question. The spinning class is being held at the YMCA, LOL.

Do you buy clothes that were made by minors in factories where they are being held until the produce a certain amount a day and not being paid a living wage?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:20pm

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Well then with all these situations I guess we all could afford designer handbags. You are hilarious.

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I think you are confused. I dont have a childcare business.

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:20pm
ok, i thought it was just me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:21pm
I'm sure you can figure out why a general style like the A-line is not patentable, and why a particular A-line piece of apparel might be.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:21pm
No, but they do-lol!!!! I am the only one here that has fake bags or something made by a child!!!!!!!
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Registered: 06-10-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:21pm
No, no one will admit to that. Will anyone own up to buying clothes that are made from minors in factories where they are being held until the fill their quota and not even making a decent wage?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:21pm

Handbag designers are NOT happy with the situation and frequently speak out in favor of prosecution. This is not a victimless crime. It is one of the many arms of organized crime- a fact that gets overlooked by the hosts of the party since they are likely 2 or 3 degrees of separation from having to deal with any of the mobsters who make this possible.

The victims are the bag designers (being succesful does not mean it's open season on you), their employees, employees of legitimate factories (who lose work) and employees of the illegitimate factories (who are more slaves than employees).

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:21pm

No, actually again with the reading comprehension capabilities you have at the ready, you misread what Libby faith was saying. She said she knows who has a sahp or not:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=17817.283

You misunderstood and went on to claim how bizarre she alleged to know the intimate financial details of families at school:

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=17817.544

When knowing someone is a sahp or a wohp suddenly establishes intimacy, I just wonder what kind of "friendships" you're talking about. Maybe my ability to have friendships with more than 10 plus families coupled with my ability to spend plenty of time on my own family is due to my SAH though. You have WOH to add to the mix. Otherwise, I just found your post #544 a little unusual. Intimate friendships with just 10 or more families and taking care of one's own family should not be at odds with each other ~ nor so difficult.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:21pm

So, no fact and/or links to support your claims.

PumpkinAngel

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