Will my child remember that I was a SAHM

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Will my child remember that I was a SAHM
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Wed, 06-06-2007 - 7:47pm

It struck me today that she might not.


I was sure I was doing the best thing for my children by staying home with them (two daughters-3 years old, and 4 months old). As I was talking to a dear aunt of mine (whose daughter is a working mother, since her infant was 12 weeks old), I felt my defensive bristles go up.


She went on and on about how "If she could do it all over again....she wouldn't have stayed home....." Then she told me a story in which her ds said to her, "mom, did you stay at home with us, or did you drop us off at daycare?" She almost died when he asked her that, because she stayed at home with her ds and dd until he entered kindergarten. Granted, many kindergartners haven't formed lasting memories by that age yet...but still. It got me thinking; is this ALL WORTH IT?


She was using it in her argument against staying at home. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling that I am not using. My career lies dormant at this time. We don't have cable, newspaper service, vacations, frills of any kind, new cars, etc. because of our money situation. We are middle-class and have sacrificed SO MUCH...only for me to hear from my aunt that..."her daughter needs to work to maintain their lifestyle." Yeah, driving a Volvo, she probably does....


I just need to hear from some of you who frequent this board and have solid opinions one way or the other on this topic.


Andrea

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:26pm
Part of the debate was that the bags were being made by children.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:27pm

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http://www.themilwaukeechannel.com/news/2191330/detail.html

Buying the fake bags isn't illegal, but selling them is. The designer label is protected by federal and state law. In other words, hustling counterfeit handbags is a crime that could cost you federal time.

http://www.pittsburghlive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/search/s_499590.html

Intentionally selling copyright-protected goods without permission is a federal crime. First-time offenders can face up to 10 years in prison and a $2 million fine. A second offense can bring up to 20 years in prison and a $5 million fine.

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:28pm
?? I guess you did not understand my post. I can easily stay home and afford the bag but I would rather leave my days open when my children are sick or I have something planned to do. I have plenty of vacation time, I used 5 weeks last year alone and rolled over 3. I like to roll over at least 2 weeks each year.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:29pm

<<However you followed that up with other comments. >>


Right, which I didn't say as I mentioned.


<<I was pointing out to you that I wasn't debating your corrected statement just your original statement was incorrect. >>


Ah, that was 100+ post ago and when I corrected that statement, I wasn't debating my original statement anymore....perhaps it's time to debate the corrected one and let the incorrect one go?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:29pm
I have a Coach bag for summer.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:29pm
On a side note. Just in case matoeric was looking for validity of the federal crime statement...I provided her with a couple of links.
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Registered: 09-14-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:30pm

LOL. You just made my skin crawl.

Basic black - only way to go :>

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:31pm
So in order for you to afford the bags you would have to give up something else? That isnt being able to afford the bags. That is being able to shuffle cash around. With your theory I could afford the bags since I have about $75K available credit on credit cards.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:32pm
Again I was clarifying for you that your original statement was what I had originally debated. Nothing about your corrected statement. I did let it go. You however continued on with other statements.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Wed, 06-13-2007 - 12:32pm

That's not the point. The point was that hazeleyes is buying (and selling at a purse party) illegal counterfeit goods, which is a federal crime

I BUY. I do NOT sell. I stated before I would never sell the bags.

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