WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 7:26pm
Ooh! Ooh! I have a suggestion. I think DS2 should accept the umpire's opinion, even when he thinks it benefits him unfairly. I'm having trouble articulating why, exactly, but it seems to me that if he is using self-discipline to force himself to honor the umpire's judgment, then he should take the self-discipline a step farther and honor it all the way. Don't you think?
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 10:35pm
So

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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 10:39pm
Well, cyducksmom will just have to gag when I cite Weissbluth, but I will.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:05am
I dunno. I'm trying to teach my kids both deference to legitimate forms of authority and honesty. Sometimes they conflict. Typically,it might be that the umpire will call him safe. Then the kid who tagged him will protest. Then the umpire will ask the other kid what happened. The standard answer is "I dunno," even if you do. I'm not in favor of teaching my kid prevarication.
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 6:32am
As you surround yourself with people who think and do just as you do, and avoid those who don't, it doesn't surprise me that you've heard that many times. It's not a normal population sample.
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 6:35am
Neither of those things would remotely approach WWIII. If there's a reason I think he should be in bed, he is. If he wants a second dessert and he's eaten a healthy dinner, why shouldn't he have one? You're striking out so far.
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 6:36am

I have no idea why you think I'm not a mellow parent. Because I don't treat myself like DS's servant? I don't think "mellow" means "lax" if that's what you mean.

I'm open to hearing DS out on nearly anything and always have been. I make the decisions or decide which to let DS make. We respect each other, demonstrate that, and very rarely have occasion for argument.

This weekend, I watched DS clambering up his play structure with a running garden hose in his hand. He threaded it through the structure so that the water ran down the slide and used it as a water slide (fully dressed). I brought DH to the window to check it out - DS was quite proud of his "water park" and was giggling pretty hard. DH told me his mother would have had a conniption at him getting wet, she would have told him she knew someone who lost an eye climbing something with something in his hand, etc. etc. and he thought it was pretty cool that I am perfectly content to let him enjoy doing stuff like that.




Edited 6/6/2005 7:40 am ET ET by dogma_2
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 7:17am

Oh, I never said I was normal!

But sadly raising preschoolers is a lot of work. And it is common for a parent to experience the stress under discussion, if only for a time or even for a few years.

In fact, all of the sahms of preschoolers whom I know who are "of means" utilize regular babysitting during the weekdays. It can be either pt or ft. That says a lot - raising preschoolers can be stressful.

Only when all of these sahp children are in preschool or elementary school have I known these families to no longer use babysitting during the weekdays.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 7:28am
Ferber didn't say enough about naps. I had a 10-minute rule. If they cried in the crib for 10 minutes, then I'd get them out and play for an hour and hope to tire them out. Then we'd try again.
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 7:47am

Why is it sad that raising preschoolers is a lot of work? I don't think that's sad at all.

"In fact, all of the sahms of preschoolers whom I know who are "of means" utilize regular babysitting during the weekdays. It can be either pt or ft. That says a lot. . . ." Yes. It says that the sample of SAHMs you know is not representative of anything. It really doesn't say anything about whether they are using babysitting because they find it stressful not to.

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