WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:10pm

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Why did she loose the allowance. Was it to mitigate the problem caused to yourself or to make your child recognize a negative consequece to an action that she might opt to avoid it in the future. They aren't the same thing. I don't understand the "But" here.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:13pm

I'd never get to play in even the spring and fall, much less the summer, if sweat pouring off me was enough to bench me, no matter what I was wearing. Never heard of a kid old enough to dress herself suffering harmful health effects from choosing her own clothes.

I still don't see the need to fight over this. If she is just looking to defy you, it's certainly playing right into her hands to give her the argument.




Edited 6/6/2005 12:18 pm ET ET by dogma_2
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:18pm
I would have preferred full reimbursement for those earrings. But since she was short of funds, I had to settle for making a point. I would think you'd get that. Slow day on the boards, I guess...
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:24pm
Are you getting that from her not going out of her way to avoid even other people's children like you do?
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:34pm

ROFL!!


You are on a tear lately! God, that was funny!


Meldi

Meldi
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:43pm

No. I believe (about 500 posts ago or so) that she said (or was it you?) that hanging out with the moms whose dh's are out of town (and their kids) should be just as fun and satisfying for me as not. That there hanging out in a group with a bunch of babies and toddlers in the room is just as fun as not. That there is no place/no reason to not bring one's children everywhere, because either way the fun is the same.


And ftr, I don't go out of my way to avoid other people's children. I hang out with the neighbors and mom's club and playgroup, whatever. Kids come to my house all the time. What I don't like is kids in the gym locker room pointing out my 'parts' when I am trying to get dressed. *That* annoys me. Kids crying when out to dinner with their parents at 9 pm, that annoys me...but, let's not go there again.


Meldi


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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 12:52pm
I liked www.microbiology101.com when I was teaching and put it on the syllabus. But again, geared to adults. It's nice that your kids are into this, though. Maybe they will carry on a family tradition of biology careers. I was WAAAAYYY into it as a kid and recieved a microscope as a gift (I think it maxeed out at 100x) when I was 12. I carry a little seed of hope that someday dd will want to come to the lab and see what I do and actually be intrigued rather than bored, but I will try to remember to soft-pedal so she doesn't feel pressured to follow my dreams instead of her own. Being in the field, you must have felt that little thrill to have your kids express an interest.
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:00pm

It wasn't anybody. I read the posts to which you refer and there wasn't any talk of there not being anything one could want to do that shouldn't be done without kids along.

Sure you do avoid other people's kids, not all the time, but you do, as in the examples you just gave and when you said you'd never go to Disney unless it was to take your own kids.

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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:24pm

I guess you and I have different opinions on what 'avoidance' means.


I would see myself as a person who avoids other

Meldi
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Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:31pm
QM is stating that the child's biology, not the parent's scheduling desire, decides when the child will start outgrowing the need to nap.

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