WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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Dj
Dj
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I've spent time trying to understand what my pre-verbal children were thinking. It's hard. Especially where sleep fighting is concerned. And I usually don't fully understand what they might have been thinking/experiencing until much later, such as the day after a wakeful night or even days/weeks later when a phase is clear.
<> I disagree. If a 2 yr-old child has been napping well, then suddenly and inexplicably stops napping altogether, it's possible it's just a blip and it's best to wait it out to see if a now cranky and unhappy child has in fact given up napping.
It's possible the child has given up napping prematurely. I think 2 is a little early. Then the parent has no choice but to accept it and figure out other ways to make the 2 yr-old happy and no longer overtired and cranky with circles under its eyes.
How do you help an over-tired, cranky 2 yr-old with circles under its eyes?
In many things with older children, you can hopefully reason, talk it out and compromise.
But WWIII can easily happen with pre-verbal children, and that's where the sleep issue reached miserable proportions for me. You can't reason with an overtired, cranky 1 or 2 yr-old who has refused to nap for 3 out of the past 6 days. You can't just ask if she's decided she's no longer napping at all, nor can you ask how to help her overcome her daily crankiness and the circles under her eyes.
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Wouldn't you want to intervene and be more aggressive if you see your child's feelings get hurt 9 and 10 times by a "friend?" Isn't that part of parenting?
You can ask Dogma, but I certainly don't allow into my inner circle of friends people who mistreat me 9 and 10 times. I wouldn't lower my standards for my children in the pursuit of appearing to be an "easy-going" parent. That smacks of trying to be a child's friend rather than his parent, and I don't think that's a good way to parent a child of tender years.
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