WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:09am
You can decide if you are going to stress the point that the child won't do what you want, or just accept it.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:20am

What are these *objective negatives* to parenting? And again, what does that have to do with woh ft??


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:36am
LOL... I think you will have to accept that many of the things that bother you don't bother other people!

***Charles***
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:38am

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Most people aren't.

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You can't always. Some people learn pretty quickly when they can and when they can't. Not all crying is a cry for help. The better a grip one has on that, the less stress they feel as a parent. Some times babies need to cry. Its what they do. Good for lung development I hear. As a group, babies are a little short on exercise options.

<< My children did not cry every day.>>

Thats too bad. Really.

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But its also your job to develop the ability to be able to distinguish the fixable from the unfixable. And to distinguish that with which you are supposed to interfere to protect your child, from that which you are supposed to stay out of so that they may experience and learn and grow and develop. Not all experiences can be happy and positive.

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How unfortunate that they didn't take advantage of their baby days to enhance that ability that comes so easily to babies, and have had nothing but the chance to unlearn it. I'm sure their inflexibe sleep habits will ensure that they will find it much more difficult than many to enjoy sleep overs, camps, college residences and their own children's baby days.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:42am
Why? How? What exactly do you do when you get together with other adults and their kids?
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:53am
When ds was an infant, we lived with my ILs for a little while. (While we were making the house we live in now liveable, long story..)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:55am
Agreed!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 10:58am
When we get together with other families,

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:14am

You are taking things in isolation that aren't meant to be taken in isolation. There are always two sides to an equation. Its the result which matters. People are telling you their equations regarding parenting come out positive.

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:18am

Well now I disagree, with that one. For 29 you look pretty darn good!


I haver been holding at 29 for the past ten years!

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