WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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I agree with all of you/them that overall the parenting equation is positive.
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Well I can see that for babies - but that ended for us before the 3rd birthdays. How and why and what are you doing that you are spending half your time supervising them? But even at that - you're spending that time supervising along with your friends right? Its fun. And funny alot of the time. You all get a kick out of watching the kids get up to their kid stuff, right? You take turns too right - some adults relax while supervising in the rec room, while some relax upstairs? Same deal when you're out somewhere. Some adults take off for a while, some supervise. In the evening, after a nice day out at some family activity where everyone had a blast and the inevitable mishaps were minor, and a nice dinner, probably a mix of kid and adult stuff, maybe at a restaurant, maybe at someones home, you retire to watch a movie. The kids downstairs in jammies and with sleeping bags having a "sleepover" with a kid flick, adults upstairs watching a real movie? Babies in bed somewhere or falling asleep in an adults arms? Its the stuff wonderful memories are made of
If not. You are missing some good years here. When you find you have a 13 yr old boy and an 11yr old girl in the mix the whole supervision thing starts to creep up again. Of course that point is not to far ahead of the one where the kids won't want to have much to do with family get togethers of any sort. You better get going.
The individual parts of parenting might have some negative connotations for you. I really cant come up with any. What individual parts of parenting do you consider as across the board negatives that can be applied to everyone?
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I'm not talking about blocking it out. I'm talking about, it ends it. They pass out within minutes, which is generally what they needed in the first place. I like to comfort my child when he's upset. I don't like to prolong the upset by doing what I like to do at his expense when what he needs to do is keel over.
I don't get upset over normal. If you want to get upset over normal, that's fine with me. Really, really seems like a waste of time and energy though.
Why would knowing he's going to stop crying any second make me not feel all in a tizzy that he's crying? Gosh, if you don't know the answer to that one, I don't even know what to say. I can tolerate nearly anything as long as it's both normal and finite.
Even now? Are there other kids there for them to play with or are they usually the only kids? I could see if they were the only children there, but with a pack of other children, why would they need so much supervision at their ages? When we have get togethers with kids there, its usually quite a few children of varying ages, and there is only constant direct supervision of the very tiny. Otherwise they are out in the yard or playing in their rooms, etc.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
No, everyone supervises their own children. We don't take turns.
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