WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:58am
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:59am

There are other kids, all age 7 or under.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:00pm
Let me guess - she was so bored because she had no other children to play with?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:01pm
So it's too late to even try to offer advice?

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:03pm

Please, don't congratulate me. I'm certainly not doing it for your approval.

Your children, when infants, didn't cry at all some days? Not once? And you still managed to be stressed out by them? Wow.

"My job is to 'fix' as much for my children as I possibly can, and I make zero apologies for that." Why would you apologize? But wow, do I ever think you are deeply mistaken. Sure explains the stress, though.

"either of my children ever had to learn to fall asleep during loud noises such as fireworks or a Christmas party." No child has to do so. It's a reflex. Too bad you didn't find that out. It's a very handy tool to have in the parental kit.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:06pm
And my glass runneth over!
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:08pm
Scratching my head at that one too.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:11pm

I would call it stressful-mainly because I kept thinking that I needed to be approaching things differently. Like I said in another post, there ARE things about parenting I would deem stressful. But the only negative for dd not applying herself to her studies would really be to HER. She suffered the consequences. I worried and stressed over it, but I dont know that I'd deem it a *negative* of parenting.


And I should say that as soon as I figured out the best way to approach the issue, she got herself back on track and is finishing out the school year with almost all As and a couple Bs :o)


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:11pm
Then see that they learn to fly it. That is your job as parent. As they get older it will be a useful skill. They will need to go home early if they have an exam the next day, even if their friends are staying at the pub. They will need to be able to decide to pack it in early, if they've been working and studying really hard for a few weeks and they feel exhausted. Even if its Friday night and everyone else is partying. Or they will get sick.
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:19pm
2 yr olds are progressing away from a tendancy to eat anything at all off the floor. They are progressing away from a need for a nap too. Get it?

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