WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:30pm

I agree that your 3 y/o might need a lot of supervision, but the 5 and 7 y/os?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:30pm

Do they really not play that well together? I just have a hard time relating. We might need to occasionally intervene with the kids when there is a group, but not constantly. Although we only have 2 in our group now who are under 5, so maybe thats part of the reason (?). And we have a few who are over 10, so they will often defuse any potential problems before they become something that parents need to be made aware of. But just as often, the 10+ group is playing in one room, and the under 8 group is playing elsewhere.


Dj

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:52pm

You let your children cry for the few minutes they need so they can do the same thing you do. Have a eureka moment. You can all realize that neither the car seat nor the crying represent anything unusual or any sort of peril whatsoever.

What are you doing while in the car to try and comfort a child who wants out of the car? Distract him? Like you can convince him he doesn't want out of the car? Yes he does. For whatever reason. Doesn't that comfort-by-distraction technique just piss the pants right off of everybody under most circumstances?

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:54pm
I've met several parents in my social circle who don't want their kids to get dirty.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:58pm
Nope. Nothing to do.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:58pm

Seriously?!?! That seems just odd to me, though I'm sure that's been your experience. I've had occasional problems with fighting in the case of a few particularly aggressive children that my kids didn't get along well with, but we've never experience that with the families we spend most of our time with. The kids have disappeared off and been happy as clams for hours from since they were 3 or 4 (Europeans tend to be a lot more casual about supervision once kids are over 3 or so). Even before then it was more an issue of possible dangers than worries about any kind of fighting.

Laura

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:01pm
2 yr olds are as hard to generalize about as any of the other stuff one might have an overwhelming but futile need to generalize about. Get it?
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:02pm

This was advice

<<"please rest assured that mommy and daddy won't bail you out should the need ever arise".>>

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:07pm
To each his own. I really have yet to see one set of implants that I feel looks natural. I can still go braless regardless of never having had implants. I didn't think having implants was a requirement for moms before going braless...shrug. Implants also make it more difficult to detect breast cancer. I don't want to take that kind of chance.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:07pm

I wish I had made more noise when Aspen was a baby. I'm just not noisy. It's quiet out here in the woods, we don't play loud music all day and pretty much all sleep at night with the sound of the ceiling fan and the frogs.


When Vivi came along and was crying all night I had to try a series of noise machines to keep Aspen from waking up because

Meldi

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