WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:08pm
I consider cleaning up vomit to be a negative of parenting.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:09pm
Oh I know.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:09pm

I'm sure I'd have alot of negative things on my list of parenting related issues if I lived my life your way.

No a 1-3 naptime would not break up the day. If we were out it would be missed certainly by anyone out of a stroller, predisposing all such small people to an early evening. Bonus. The goal generally was "now, lets keep them awake in the car as we drive home!" Candy was often involved to that end. Anyone in a stroller could have their nap and their outing too. If we were centred at someones house naps were of course entirely possible, just generally passed on in favour of fun.

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:10pm

More than half over here too. The 'more hands make light work' scenario does not play out with our group because everyone has their own kids to attend to. Why do they want to attend to mine?


But, mine are still really small....I thought you said that it got better? They still can't "Just go play." at their ages?


Meldi

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:13pm
You are entirely wrong. Kids 'that young' hold it together just fine with very little fuss and bother, supervision or not. No, wait. The presence of direct supervision tends to increase the fuss and bother with kids that old. Adults become pawns in their childhood social negotiations. So "Ok, I'm first" doesn't pass quietly allowing the game to proceed, it becomes "I want to be first he's aaaalllwwwaaayyyss first". Because of course there is that audience.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:13pm
I don't have the same issue w/ Charles.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:17pm

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Saying something like this or that you would never 'avoid' your child implies (imo) that you choose to include him in all of your activities. That you never want a break from him other than when it's 'impossible' for him to be there.


And that's fine either way, I was just curious.


Meldi


Meldi
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:22pm
Why would they want to attend to yours? Because its fun? Kids in packs are fun. I mean they are tending to children anyway why not yours too? Then you get to tend to theirs. You all get a break from the same old same old and you get to make a social thing out if for a change. I'd ditch that moms club that breaks up at noon to accomodate naps if I were you. Find some parents who know how to live.
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:24pm

Because the Target child is crying in that same crying/whining way that MY child cries when she's tired and needs to take a nap.


You're the one who insisting that my child is transitioning. Since this whole thing began she's taken a nap every day, just like she needs too. That one day of missing her nap last Monday made her crazy for the better part of the week last week. But now she appears to be back on schedule, till she decides to get mad at mommy again or for whatever reason, bucks her nap. Then the cycle will start again.


At any rate, I won't stress about it anymore, that's the one thing I have learned from this monster thread.


Meldi

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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 1:26pm
Yes and your child is doing exactly what mine both did when they were outgrowning their naps. SKIPPING THEM.

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