WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:56pm

If the parents are organized enough, and put their childrens' healthy sleep habits ahead of learning to sleep through fireworks or parties, children do not need to reflexively sleep through those things.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:57pm
You just let them sleep wherever they are. Aspen has been prevented from exercising the flexibility and adaptability she was born with, for over two years. What did you expect was going to happen?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:58pm
Wasn't the fighting with her, and the tension between you two, stressful?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 2:59pm
No thanks.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:02pm
Of course you don't feel the need to supervise your older children as closely as I do.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:03pm
Different age cohort than the one we have.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:03pm
The adults or the children?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:05pm
Depends on the time of day and the circumstances.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:05pm
Developing sleep situation flexibility while avoiding any habits which would encourage sleep habit inflexibility would seem to me to be the very epitome of healthy sleep habit development. Thunderstorms must just wreak havoc with your family life.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:06pm
I guess your parents never let her develop her inner resources so she'd never be bored?

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