WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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I'm sorry, but it is simply not an indication of a problem or anything unhealthy for a child to be able to sleep when he needs to, no matter how much you or your precious Dr. Weissbluth want to try to make it one.
I don't think it's too bad at all that I'm such a disorganized mess of a parent that I once ran out of milk. Really, Felicia, you're going to have to do much better than that if you're going to try to insult me and my parenting.
The question is where are the parents of that 2 year old who's putting a rock in her mouth?
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Oh we see plenty of them throughout our day of socialising...they run in to tell us what they are working on, play sports outside or play on the equipment or in the sandbox while we watch (sitting outside), build houses with the couch cushions in the living room while we sit at a table a few feet away. Our house and garden simply isn't big enough for the kids to be out of sight for hours (or even for half hour). The kids just drift in and out of the adult conversation, go off to plan their own activities, come back to talk a bit. No one minds the interruptions because there's plenty of time to focus on both the kids and the adult conversation.
We very rarely have ever had to actually actively supervise in the sense of interrupting our conversation to deal with fighting or poor behaviour. I honestly don't get that. The vast majority of kids we socialise with are perfectly able to sort out things with each other without requiring constant adult intervention and without fighting....and that's in age ranges from 2-10.
What exactly are your and your friends' children doing while you guys socialise? Seriously? Are they not trying out games of their own? Exploring the inside or the outside of the house? Discovering new toys? Anything? Are they expecting to be entertained the entire time by the adults? Are you all sitting around creating a mini preschool with planned activities, projects etc. to make sure that the kids are entertained every second? Are they really not capable of interacting with other children for an hour without ending up in a fight? I am really confused.
Laura
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