WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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Are you saying that your 5 year old is incapable of playing for more than 10 minutes with another friend(s)? I wasn't sure by your answer.
Now, funny that this is the topic; because I have been sitting here with 3 five yr olds (my son and his two friends) since 9:00 am. (not to mention my 5 month old. They have been playing outside and coming into the playroom and his room all day. We have the usual squirmishes of: she took this, he did that. Carlos said heeeee wooooon't beeeee myyy frieeeeend anymoooorrreee. But those are solved by my telling them to figure it out or I will take away said toy or that since they can't play nicely they can play seperately. They can play together for waaaaay longer than 10 minutes befor that happens. Usually an hour or so.
OK....perfect example.... my son just ran in behind his friend. Carlos is pleading for her not to tell me what happened. I am laughing to myself because of what I am posting and what is happening IRL. "Carlos pushed me off the trapeze!!!!!" Asked Carlos. He confirmed it. Carlos is not allowed on trapeze for the rest of the day. He says "WAAAAAA" I say go to your room if you want to cry or go back out and play. He went back out to play. They are all playing in the sand box with the water right now. Problem solved. They know that not playing nicely together or coming to me with some complaint will result in things being taken away or them being separated. As a result, they play really well together.
But also ds & my other gf's kids play really well together. We usually get to sit around and chit chat and they are off playing. We rarely will interfere with them playing. It's no fun for them. no fun for us.
That being said, I know that their are ALOT of people who would not do what I am doing. (which is watching my ds, two other kids and a 5 month old) These particular kids are my best friend's (friends for 35 years) kids. They are like my own. I enjoy it. It doesn't stress me nor does it bother me. My 5 month old LOVES to watch them play and they Crack him up. The only way that I would have real stress is if I was rushing someone to the hospital. Other than that it works for me. I know that people have different personalities and that my Best friend would see what I am doing as a personal form of torture.
That is how we do it with our group of friends. It's not uncommon for someone to come in and say "you ds and so&so were fighting over the truck so I told them to knock it off or the were going inside." To which I would repy "Oh,Thanks! By the time I meandered out to ds and so&so they were playing fine or mved on to something else.
I totally agree with everything you have said through out this thread. I haven't been able to jump in because of time constaints. But alot of your get togethers sound like ours...... relaxed and fun.
BTW...the post about your DH "saving" your table with the baby was too much. I was literally LOL at that one.
The times that I did this (the pack and play at a friend's house) I thought, "Everyone does this, no big deal!" Aspen would go to sleep I could hang out longer. Perfect.
And it was...till the drive home. Each time (and I did try this more than once), Aspen would wake up and then STAY awake for HOURS!!! One time we didn't get to bed till 3:30 and she was up at 6am.
Better off just staying home :(
Meldi
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