WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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Color me confused too. I went to a baby shower Sunday and there were about 6-7 small children there. The tiniest ones (under two) did stay with the adults for the most part. But my ds and 3 other children under the age of 6 were all playing out in the yard and using sidewalk chalk in the driveway. We could see them, and they certainly interacted with us here and there, but they did not require our full attention or supervision. They didnt fight either, or make a mess, or get exceedingly dirty (although I dont care about that too much).
In fact, I'm having a hard time thinking of ANY event where there were kids clinging to the adults, demanding attention or adults needing to intervene in kid squabbles or issues-in all the years of socializing with children around. The kids run around and play, both inside and outside, the adults talk, and there is seldom any fighting or problems.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Don't tempt me like that! Are you guys on summer vacation yet?
I could use four extra kids to help me keep the pooches tuckered out lately. I've been working with Tillie on the invisible fence system - she figured it out very quickly and respects the line but is not at all intimidated by it. Arrow, on the other hand, is such a marshmallow that he goes and hides under my bed when TILLIE is in the yard with the collar on, because he's so concerned that SHE'S going to trigger the warning beep. So in order for either of them to have any fun or exercise I'm having to go run them around in the yard separately. And here part of the reason I got Tillie was so they'd play together!
You know what? That is *exactly* what I did with dd. I just got tired of being a beotch about it, tired of nagging, tired of grounding, tired of standing over her. We made a few ground rules, and I made very few comments or suggestions. She had to bring home a progress report each friday-no progress report, no fun that weekend. Bad grades (as in lower than a C) and no fun that weekend. She forgot her report a few times, tried to wheedle her way out of it, and when she saw I was going to stand firm, she started bringing it home. I stopped asking (nagging) if she had done her homework. I stopped checking her homework. I told her that it was on her shoulders, that if she ended up going to summer school or getting held back that it was HER problem and consequence, not mine. We pretty much stopped talking about school and grades. And lo and behold, her grades started coming back up. Shes finishing out the quarter with what looks like 3 As, 3 Bs and maybe one C. I can live with the C, lol.
What is really great is her confidence is back up too. I think she just started feeling defeated, and she'd get behind and think she could never catch up. She needed
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Edited 6/8/2005 8:59 am ET ET by dogma_2
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