WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:26am
Not a problem. I imagine we can all come up with having seen someone we can safely say has artificial ones - thing is, artificially huge and perky was probably the look said person was shooting for. There are a great number of women with "fakes" who you probably never even consider as having been candidates who I'm sure pass unnoticed because they were shooting exactly for a natural look, natural, as in, match my other one, that's all I'm saying.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:29am
I don't think I'd trust myself to drive. I can barely be trusted to make coffee before I've had my coffee.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:29am
Point taken.:-)
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:29am

A 5 year old who requires parental hovering in order to prevent him/her from starting fights, breaking something or eating all of the pigs-in-the-blankets is indeed a 5 year who can't behave, even if they were prevented from doing all of the above by a parent. Good manners come from the ability of a child to exhibit some level of politeness and self-control. A 5 yo child is neither well-mannered nor well-behaved if their actions and movements have to be monitored and controlled at all times by a parent. By that age, they should have been taught better.

Laura

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:33am

But the parent is ultimately responsible. If it's my 2 yr-old with a rock in his mouth, and neither I nor DH are there to remove it, I'm upset with myself or DH that we even allowed something so serious to happen. If my child swallowed the rock and choked or if my kid ran out into a busy street and got injured, I couldn't forgive myself. That's why I guess DH and I hover - every 10 minutes or so, we check on all 3 of the kids: where is the 3rd kid if not with us, etc.

I have yet to be in a big social setting while my kids run off in 3 different directions and I just sit and socialize for hours and hours. In fact, not even for 10-15 minutes yet!

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:34am

Bwahahaha on it being possible to "force" candy on a kid. Man, they really hate that. How selfish of that parent.

(Kentucky Fried Chicken is my personal favorite, though.)

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:36am
A strict sleep schedule doesn't cause it. All 3 of mine are/were on a strict schedule and have never had that issue.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:36am
Who says they aren't even seen for hours? A crowd of happily playing children is kind of hard to miss.
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:37am
I've been trying to imagine socializing with your crowd. I can't. Who would subject themselves to even 5 minutes of it? Oh Goody Goody Goody I can't wait to get together and watch all my friends hover over 5 yr olds and shadow their kids beginning to end...lest someone be put in the horrible position of having to stop someone elses child from running with a fork. Oh my gawd. I suppose if such a thing occurred it would be all over town, noone else would be talking about anything else for weeks? It really sounds like your social get togethers are a forum for some sort of bizare parenting talent contest. Bizzare because what I really can't figure is how any group of parents, who can't leave 3-5yr olds alone for more than 10 minutes without having things fall apart, can view themselves as competing in any sort of parenting contest - if we assume a contest rewards positive results.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:39am
Ita.

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