WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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"I resent the notion that I did my child a life-long disservice by not having the occassion to make them sleep at a fireworks display." My notion of what is a disservice to a child is not having the thrill of having been allowed to have SEEN a fireworks display. (And no one makes a child sleep at one. They either do, or they don't.)
"Isn't there something that rules such functions in humans? Hmmm....what's that word....genes?" No. There may be something, what's that word, genes! that has some influence on the matter. The other part of the equation is, what's that word. . . conditioning! And that's got to start pretty early, otherwise, it's a change, which is harder.
<> Friends or family MIGHT. And I definitely would. So, that's what's important - that we leave not having offended. It takes little effort on my and DH's part, and then we can leave without any concerns.
Yesterday, the gold standard of parenting on this board was "hands-off," just ignore it and it will go away, blast the radio until the child crashes on his own, be easy-going, no problem, no hills to die on.
Today, you're actually advising me to discipline? I thought discipline was "out" on this board. A big no-no??
(BTW, it's not children who are pigs. It's pigs-in-the-blankets!)
You must know people with enormous houses. I can't otherwise understand how it would be possible not notice a fight going on. I would assume that the food must also be placed somewhere completely invisible to all adults at all times? If food is being shared in another room among children alone, any unfair distribution will be noted and brought to the attention to grownups (as in "he got more than I did!"). As for toy breakage....the very rare occasions when a toy has been broken, it has been brought immediately to my attention by my children, usually with tears because they were so upset and embarrassed. In any case, with a crowd of children hanging out together, any broken toys usually gets reported from several different sources at once.
And I've never been to a party where any of the adults were "planted" at all times throughout the evening. You aware that there is a vast middle ground between "hovering" and "completely tuning out", right? But knock yourself out hovering....I can't help wondering, though, how you think a kindergarten teacher is managing 20 5 yos on a daily basis. It certainly isn't possible to hover over 20 at once and I would image that precious little teaching would get accomplished if 5 yo couldn't be trusted not to start fights and break things. When exactly do you expect and trust that your children have developed some basic respect and manners?
Laura
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