WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:41am
I think this is truly as much a matter of personality as lifestyle/conditioning.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:41am
I nursed my first to the sounds put out by our local rock station. She heard alot of Guns and Roses and Green Day before she was able to even roll over.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:43am
Ita. There are so many factors that come into play with children and their habits. There is no one size fits all.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:44am

Are you saying children are put on a sleep schedule to avoid getting so overtired they don't sleep well? Do you know any children who have been on a sleep schedule??

And to answer your question: for the many, many benefits to me, DH and my children.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:45am
Ok, you want me to address that too, I will. Perhaps all the "trying" is precisely the problem. A child's going to sleep shouldn't be a matter of your effort.
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:48am
I expect the technique to piss the pants off of anybody of any age being subject to it. There is aboslutely nothing more irritating then being told you don't have a problem when in fact you are quite convinced that you do. Don't you agree?
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:52am

<> If you drive all day, the kids are inactive, nod off from time to time and won't get sufficiently tired for bedtime by a swim. It wouldn't matter if it were a hotel or their own bed - toddlers need to be somewhat tired if they are to sleep well.

<> All 3 of mine wouldn't need any winding down time - I'd likely have changed diapers/taken all to the potty/maybe even put them in pj's, and then carried them asleep from car to bed for a full night's good rest. It wouldn't make a difference if it's a hotel or their own bed.

Not all children fit into your scenarios. Mine don't. And mine are all on a schedule.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:53am
Clarification FTR - when I'm talking "fight" I'm talking "argument," not "fistfight." When I'm talking something broken, I'm talking "accident," not "kid got ticked and threw something." Any normal 5 YO ought to be able to avoid the latter of each pair all on his own, without mommy standing guard. Anyone who would get offended about the former of each pair occurring, is not worth worrying about not offending.
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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:54am

Okay. So, for youself and QM, if you were out at a function and it's naptime (or there is no such thing as naptime?) you don't "try" to set up the pack and play and put the child it in, you just let the 10 month old wander into a room and lie down somewhere? Or you are out and it's bedtime and you want to stay and play cards with your friends, you don't 'try' to put the toddler to bed, you just let them wander till they drop?


I don't understand. The 'trying' that I'm referring to involves the same amount of effort that we put in at home (story, tucking in with bear, some water) but the sleeping part doesn't happen.


Meldi

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:56am
No. Stressing the need to discipline is out.

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