WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 8:57am
The only thing more annoying, apparently, is to be told you have a really irritating problem which was easily avoidable at one point in time, not so much so now, when you are in fact suspicious that you indeed do have such a problem and you are exceedingly distressed about that fact.
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:01am
Don't know for certain what? That my child wasn't invovled in a FIGHT? Did I not HEAR it? Did I not SEE any tell tale signs? Did the kids bury the evidence? Did the kids swear themselves to silence? Good grief. If it was a fight I bet the neighbours knew. How the heck did I miss it?
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:03am

I do, actually. Family and friends.

<> I'll try a third time. That's exactly why I said I "keep an eye on" my 5 yr-old.

But I think it's funny that you consider common courtesy and "keeping an eye on" a child to be "hovering" and so much effort. To me, it's just being polite.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:09am
No.

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:11am

But did you have to blast the piano music to shock him into deciding it wasn't worth crying though?

Soft classical, children's music or even rock music have soothed my children in the car such that they stop crying. BUt if I played any music so loudly as to drown out their crying, I'm sure they'd cry louder and I'd just about lose my mind!

Edited to add: I don't even remember if children's music really stopped my kids from crying. Rather, I remember it calming down an antsy child in the car.




Edited 6/8/2005 9:27 am ET ET by luvthebabes
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:13am

No you don't understand thats perfectly clear. Reread my post. And then decide if you'd rather

a)end a perfectly fun day mid afternoon with happy as clam children so they can go home and nap, as per tight sleep schedule

b)give the nap skippers candy in the car later in the day so they pass on the later nap and avail themselves of an eariler than usual bedtime as per sane sleep schedule

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:14am

"This obviously only works if it works for everybody."


Agreed.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:15am
I wouldn't brag about it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:17am
Oh how high brow of you to decide what's civilization and what's not.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:18am

I don't know for QM, never met QM. My son never, ever had a regular naptime, I just watched for the eye rub. Right ear turning pink was another warning sign that conking out was on the horizon. I would have the room set up in advance and would make sure he was familiar with what it looked like and knew that he would be napping there already so that that information was old news. See the sign, tell child he had two more minutes to play and then it would be nap city (nothing gets a kid's adrenaline up like getting yanked out of the middle of doing something fun with no warning), actually give the two minutes, and then off we'd go. Something quiet, like the book you mentioned, then into the pack n' play or whatever. I'd tell him that I'd come and check on him while he slept - for some reason, that was always relaxing for him to hear, even at home. Monitor on, out I'd go.

I have a hard time imagining that a "put child down at regular nap time" would work as well on the road, because often, being in a different environment IS more stimulating than being at home, and that will either result in the kid getting worn out faster (needs to go down earlier for success) or invigorated (needs to go down later for success).

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