WOH and sleeping issues

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WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:30am
::::shrug:::: And I don't see any reason to spend a single moment of

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:32am
It isn't soothing. It doesn't need to be soothing. It needs to be constant.
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:33am

If you have absolutely no higher and better use of your time than cleaning up your filthy child every single day, go for it.


Well....y'know...I shower daily and I'm by no means "filthy" beforehand (well, except for yesterday when I decided on a whim to plant flowers after dinner).

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:37am
Hot diggety! We agree on something! I'm unwilling to inflict whiny, cranky children on my friends too! So I don't! Lucky for me, though, my supervision, or that of any number of adults I know, actually is quite effective for, oh, say, up to ten children, so it's pretty easy to avoid the inadequately supervised part of the equation too, provided none of the party guests actually brought an entire kindergarten class with them.
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:37am

I would stick with our schedule.

All of the problems you're creating - giving candy to a child who hasn't even asked for it, creating stress for the child when he'd much rather fall asleep - stem from your not sticking to a schedule.

Our having a schedule prevents all of the problems you've created for yourself and your children.

With my schedule, we routinely socialize, travel to fun places for the day, go to playgrounds/aquarium/pools/the beach, etc. It's never been a problem for us.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:37am
Color me nonplussed as well. I thought all kids over the age of 23 months neither want nor need naps, not in their beds, not in a car, no place, no how.
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:42am

Giving a child a daily bath is beneath you? Wow. If you have such a high regard for the Great Almighty Importance of Your Time that it offends your sensibility to give your child a bath, there really is something wrong with this picture.

(Psst. Sometimes it really isn't worth my time to give my filthy child a bath. In which case, he stays stinky overnight. GASP.)

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:44am

<<(nothing gets a kid's adrenaline up like getting yanked out of the middle of doing something fun with no warning)>> How do you give an infant or even a 1 yr-old a 2 minute warning?? Even my 2 yr-old doesn't understand the concept of 2 minutes!

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OK, score a point for the strict schedule keepers! When we went on the road last year 2 times to the Bahamas, it was our strict sleep schedule that helped us. We stuck to the schedule and everyone - so "invigorated" and tired out - went down for naps at the same time they do at home in their own beds. Thank God for our schedule. It didn't matter that we were in a hotel away from home.

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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:46am

In your social circle, children are invited to baby showers?

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:46am

It's one thing I like about having my dogs in the car with me when I'm in the grocery. To them, I'm off "hunting" for half an hour, I come back, they can hardly believe the variety of yummy treats and interesting smells I've got with me. They never fail to look very impressed with my skill.

What, you mean, making grocery shopping lists isn't the highest and best use of your time? ;-)

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