WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:58am
No, actually, that is the question.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 9:59am
If you don't have to put them to sleep when they aren't wanting to sleep - where does this become you having a sleep schedule rather than them being allowed to sleep when they're tired?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:00am
Or...they could learn to hate change and unpredictability and feel insecure.

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:02am

Well....read carefully and you may notice an overriding theme :)


I tried writing grocery lists, before.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:03am
You told me that you have never allowed anything other than your sleep schedual, which you seem to have to fight over anyway, define the regular daily routine. I told you so yeah, of course your child won't sleep anywhere else. Cripes she won't even sleep on your schedule now. Do you think maybe you should change something?
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:04am
Oh.... I guess it's a reading comprehension problem.
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:04am
Sure.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:07am
First of all, you are taking everything all or nothing.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:08am
Entirely wrong.

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:10am
Change and unpredictability are inevitable facts of life. It is good to learn to deal with these things,imo. If children are used to things being the same all the time(unchanging, predictable) how will they learn to adjust to change without feeling insecure?

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