WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:21am
Even as a child, I didn't think fireworks were that thrilling.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:22am
You know, my dh pulls the same thing.
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:22am
Yes, that's me....slacker Mom.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 01-29-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:23am
Right. I was going to say it has more to do with being polite and civilized, but apparently someone else has the corner on that market! *L*
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:24am
Personally, if he had a lot of fun getting dirty, then no, there's isn't a better use of my time.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:24am

I thought your friends' houses were so big you don't see your children "for hours."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:26am
Meldi, you don't need dogma's permission to do what's right for your girls.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:28am

Actually, you first used the word "hovering", as in

"Guess I'm hovering, though it used to be called having some manners."

I simply continued the use of the word.

Since PNJ's kids (including the nearly 6 yo) can't manage even 10 minutes at another house without direct adult intervention, I'd definitely call that hovering (apparently necessary hovering). It is perfectly possible to keep an eye on children who are happily playing for hours with no fighting or breaking of things without requiring constant adult intervention. It's even been possible for most 3 and 4 year olds I have known. It simply involves teaching children good manners rather than aiming to supervise their every second. That is why, when getting together with the families I know, no child over the age of 3 or so has needed hovering attention. Keeping an eye on the kids is perfectly manageable with minimal effort and without making the gathering stressful or creating a situation that makes adult conversation or relaxation impossible.

Laura

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:28am

Not only at 3, at 2.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:28am
For some children, a child's going to sleep does require effort.

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