WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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Aren't children biologically capable of adjusting from birth?
PumpkinAngel
I guess I live in a dream world or at least a world were the 5 year olds I gave birth to and know do not need "constant & direct" supervision. The ones I know in my world can play for a long time without any major problems, battles or eating all the pigs in blankets.
As I said in yesterday's post I had 3 five year olds here from 9:00am - 4:15. (I watch them every t & th) The only things that were thrown were ball and such outside. Ok, a dump truck was thrown onto the neighbors garage roof, but that's par for the course. The only major thing that happened is ds pushed friend when she was getting on trapeze. Ds was not allowed back on trapeze for the rest of the day- problem solved. When inside, two of them were building a huge train set in the playroom. The other was playing with the stuffed animals in ds's room. I was floating within the house taking care of things and a 5 month old. My ear was open for anything major but most little squirmeshes are taken care of by themselves. I ususally like to stand back and see if they can solve it themselves.
Lets just say though that a train track did get thrown and I wasn't there to witness it. So what. Chances are that even if I was "hovering" and giving them directives on how to act, the track would have gotten thrown anyway. Again so what. I take care of it when it happens. Problem solved.
To varying degrees.
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Ah....I guess it only *looked* like a cheap shot.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
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Last New Year's Eve, we had 3 families over for dinner and fireworks. There was ds (then 9), girl of friend #1 (8) two boys from friend #2 (7 and 5), dd (5), boy of friend #1 (5) and new born baby girl from friend #2 (6 weeks old). All of the kids (except the newborn, of course) have known each other for years. We ate dinner all together at the same table, played board games in the living room with the kids running around us and doing their own thing, took turns playing ping pong with each other and with the kids, and wandered out once in a while with the kids to set off fireworks (legal in Sweden). The kids stayed awake until well after midnight without a single episode of whining or fussing and had a blast. They got sparkling cider at minight and we all cheered in the new year together with an Austrian tradition of melting lead then dumping it in cold water (one is supposed to predict the future from the shape of the lead). They left around 1am, our kids were asleep by 1:30am and woke up around 10am the next day without any problems (i.e. they were in a great mood the next day).
The kids would have been miserable had they been left at home alone with a babysitter instead of having a chance to watch fireworks and play with their good friends. The adults would have been unhappy had they not been able to share the fun of fireworks and keeping awaking until midnight with their children. It was a family experience I will treasure and a highly enjoyable evening spent with dear friends. I don't understand why such events must necessarily involve adults only in order to be fun for the adults and must necessarily involve misery and boredom for the children. All we wanted was to share a special day with friends and family, including our children and that's what we got.
Laura
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