WOH and sleeping issues
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WOH and sleeping issues
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am |
We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.
I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

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Sometimes they are, sometimes not. And at this particular shower, no one was drinking (the hostess and I had a glass of wine together-this is my best friend with 4 kids, her oldest dd is having her first baby. Cant believe my friend is going to be a granny, lol!). It was a beautiful afternoon and everyone was out on the front deck most of the time, while the kids played in the yard.
I dont hesitate to get a sitter if I dont feel its an event my children would enjoy or its more adult oriented. My youngest brother just graduated from paramedic school, they had a sit down dinner at a hotel. I hired my dd to babysit ds for the evening. They wouldnt have liked it, lots of long speeches, and dd was just as happy to earn some money.
I also dont ever bring my children if the host of a party or event does not specify that they are welcome and invited. Probably part of the reason children were welcome at the shower is that my friends dd has a little stepdaughter and she wanted her to be included.
And lastly, I wouldnt bring my children to anything if they were not able to be left playing with other kids for more than 10 minutes unsupervised. But honestly, I think we sometimes create our own monsters-your kids dont sound like they are often put in situations where proper behavior is required. Mine have been in those situations since they were very small, and they not only know how to behave at parties (or restaurants, or on planes, etc) they really enjoy those kind of things.
Do you think that part of the difference is that neither you nor your social group are especially into kids? Other than your own of course! Because it doesnt sound like you were ever much of a kid person before you had them.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Okay that made me LOL. I'm a lot of things, but slack isnt one of them. My kids are very well behaved children, and thats why they are welcome and invited to other peoples homes and I dont mind taking them places. They know beyond the shadow of a doubt that their names are mud if they do not behave well. Raising polite and well mannered children who play well with others takes a lot of time and dedication-not slacking.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
So, it's okay for you to take a cheap shot at Lois because someone else did it to you?
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
My bad, I meant "disappeared for hours" more in the metaphorical sense. In other words, that we didn't have to intervene in any way for hours. Our garden is very small, it would be nearly impossible for an adult to sit outside and not see the kids. The inside of the house is quite compact and open, I can hear exactly what is going on any bedroom, even if I am in the dining area. Most of my friends have very similar situations. I've never known a fight to be silent.
"My son's K teacher has 16 students and a full time aide, not one adult with 20 kids."
So still 8 5yos to 1 teacher...I suspect that they are giving more credit to your child's ability to behave without being hovered over than you are prepared to.
Laura
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
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