WOH and sleeping issues

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Registered: 09-15-2003
WOH and sleeping issues
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 10:34am

We were at a dinner party last night at the home of one of dh's coworkers. They have 2 boys, 6 and 4. They have a bunch of sleeping issues (kids 'scared' at night, won't fall asleep in their own bed, won't go to bed without mom or dad cuddling them, etc.) The mom blames herself because since she works all day and misses them so much she tends to cuddle with them late at night and they fall asleep in a pile on the bed all together. She said that if she SAH, they wouldn't have the same issues.


I sah. For us, bed time is a rigid, welcome respite at the end of the day. Dh has no desire to keep them up either, lol.

Meldi

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:47am
No, no, no. Effort is impossible during sleep. That's why it's refreshing.
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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:48am

That is simply not universally true. How would you be inconvienced by my minimally scheduled child? He plays well with others with minimal supervision. Doesn't throw toys at play dates, wouldn't eat all the food on the buffet line if left unsupervised and is rarely cranky even if he didn't get the required hours of sleep the night before after seeing a fireworks diplay.

Now on the otherhand it seems to me *I* would be inconvienced by your child who seems to require maximum supervision and cannot be trusted to play unsupervised with my child at an event *even though* he is on a strict schedule

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:49am

See...this is where having a bulldog comes in handy.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:49am
She's not asking my permission. She's asking me a question. You know. Debate board. Question.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:54am

ITA


It's when they are super quiet, that needs to be investigated.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:54am

What part of it didn't make my child cranky to watch a fireworks show, what part of him not being on a schedule, and what part of crankiness not being a big fat hairy deal anyhow don't you understand?

I hadn't imagined that it was utterly useless to do anything with a child prior to the age where they'd remember it forever. In fact, I'm pretty sure that there's a fair bit of evidence that you really oughtn't keep a child in a box until they're 6 or so so as to avoid upsetting their sleep schedule with a novel experience.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:57am

Oh, but that's not important, remembering good times had when you were two when you're three. Experiences can't be important unless you remember them when you're 40.

DS had seen three fireworks shows before his first birthday. He absolutely LOVED crowds and lights.

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 11:57am
There actually is nothing that makes me happier than when I see the pleasure he is getting out of playing in a mud puddle in the back yard for hours. He needs nothing more than a patch of dirt, water, a few dump trucks and some sticks to be the happiest boy in the world. That in turn makes me the happiest mother. So big deal...I throw him in the tub. Unless I was curing cancer or solving the world's AIDS epidemic, right at this moment in my life, this IS the best use of my time.
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:00pm
Are you saying your 3 and 5 yr olds make people suffer because of change in nap time or location?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 06-08-2005 - 12:02pm

I always figure the dirtier they are the happier they are and that's what play clothes and the hose (at least in the summer) are for.


The only time I require the kids to be clean and presentable (for what seems like a brief moment in time) is for church, school, and social occasions.

PumpkinAngel

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